When you learn to let go your hands will open to what wants you instead of grasping at what’s struggling to get away. About 6 months ago I had someone leave my life, rather abruptly and without explanation. I went from confused, to hurt, to angry. I didn’t know what to do. I like clarity [...]
He left us. It was one of those terrible, awful situations you hear about happening to someone you grew up with and just cringe. No one saw it coming, not our friends, family, certainly not me. Suffice to say I came home from work on Thursday, he told me he was going, and by Sunday [...]
Lately it’s become clear to me how often men and women willfully misunderstand each other. A discussion about love, marriage and dividing household responsibilities devolved into an argument about whether socks on the floor constitute a deal-breaker. I was shocked at the speed with which rational thought turned into “men are from Mars, women are [...]
Making friends as an adult is hard. Making friends as an married adult with a seven month old baby when you’re only 23 is even harder. I need your advice. For five years TP and I were pretty much handed friends. In school we were with people in such tight living spaces that we didn’t [...]
It wasn’t that long ago friendships between men and women were thought of as unseemly. As more women leave the role of homemaker behind to work beside their male counterparts, this separation between the sexes starts to feel really…silly.
We’ve seen it play out a million times on the silver screen. The guileless camaraderie between a man and a woman. There’ll be the inevitable montage of them laughing with their heads thrown back, spending lots of time together in coffee shops and bowling alleys. But sooner or later they’ll reach for the same ball. His hand will accidentally brush against hers, and the camera will zoom in for the requisite close up. Their eyes will lock, and in that instant a knowing gaze will pass between them. They’ll kiss for the first time, and there’ll be no turning back. From that point on, they know they can no longer be just friends…
Dear Girlfriend, I need to tell you something. You are one of the most tremendous human beings I have ever met. Not only are you beautiful on the outside, you have this amazing ability to allow your inner beauty to shine through and magnify all of your gifts. You are a wonderful daughter, sister, mother, [...]
I married for love. And for the civil recognition of my love for my partner, which meant a blurring of the very literal borders that separated us (we hold passports from different countries). The wedding? Well, that was the fun part!
My husband Tom and I have had a “do I look fat in this dress” pact since the beginning of our marriage, when I was healthy size eight. Next to being asked to get snipped, this is the question that men fear most from women. How can he answer this loaded, Catch-22? If he answers [...]