The simplest path to living a life you love is to love the life you live. Here are 5 ways you can make your life more lovable this week. I wrote them just for you but it’s okay to share if you feel like it.
1. Be more selfish about your time
When you take time for yourself you recharge all the things that make you wonderful. When you’re all charged up and your best self, oh how easy it is to adore you!
To do starting this week: Schedule a weekly coffee date with yourself and a book. Then show up for the date!
2. Belittle more imperfections
If you’re like other fabulous people I know, you’re very, very good at belittling your (and other’s) finer points. Now what about the things that might feel like imperfections but are actually just things that set you (and others!) apart from the crowd? Make a point to belittle the things that deserve belittling. The paltry, annoying, meaningless idiocies we all encounter but spend too much time on. You know what I’m talking about. =)
To do starting now: Start replacing mean thoughts with better ones. It’s a bit like singing when your sad just to turn things around inside.
3. Be more present whenever possible
We love you, we need you, we adore you, we’d like to spend more time with you! But it doesn’t feel like you’re actually with us much of the time. You’ll get more out of conversations with IRL friends if you’re not checking on your digital posse quite so often.
To do starting this evening: Shut your smartphone down from 6-10pm and keep it in your purse whenever you’re eating.
4. Be more available for friends
Real-life friends are a lot like Farmville in that you only gain points with lots of time and careful tending! If you make a point to add just a few more touches per week, you’ll see the love pour back in greater volume than you dished it out.
To do starting this week: Call three friends just to see how they’re doing and try very hard to just listen.
5. Be more willing to say not right now
Saying no to people is never fun. It sucks to disappoint others, particularly when you really care about them. But we both know you’ll crash and burn and be of no use to anyone if you try to do too much. The solution? Say “not right now” and see if there’s any way you can say yes later in the day, week, or month. That way, you’re not saying no, you’re just rescheduling. Of course, much of the time people will decline but then they’re turning you down and now they’re the evil ones…
To do starting today: Say no to at least one thing each day.
Do you have any additional points to add? Share this post with a friend and let them know what you’re doing each day to be more alive!
One Comment
Thank you so much for sharing these tips! I seriously needed the reminder to get back to the basics and this was perfect.